WEEK 9 - Friday 8 November 2024
I write this between appointments at our Sixth Form Parents Evening event.
I teach Business Studies to Year 13 students only and so this is the first opportunity for me to meet the parents of this year’s group of students. So far, I have met warm, friendly and passionately supportive parents willing to do whatever they can to support their child in the final year of their compulsory education. This brings a responsibility to myself, and Mrs Smith, my co-teacher in the subject, to ensure that we provide meaningful information and helpful advice and suggestions on how they can help their child to improve and develop.
But parents’ evenings present perennial dilemmas for all schools and the following questions are ones we ask ourselves every year as we try to promote cooperation and engagement:
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How do we persuade parents/carers to attend?
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How do we ensure staff have the energy, after five hours of teaching, to sit through three hours of non-stop discussion with parents?
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Some of our staff teach over a hundred students in each year group. How do we schedule appointments for these without extending the event until midnight?
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How do we train staff to have meaningful conversations within a five-minute slot?
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How do we handle parents who expect and demand more time with some staff?
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How do we support parents with limited understanding of the education system, to support their child effectively?
Each parents’ evening interaction has the potential, even in five minutes, to be magical, the catalyst for further communication and the unlocking of support that genuinely makes a difference. Many, of course, serve to reinforce what is already well understood on all sides, namely that the majority of students are doing just fine and need only to keep going. It is the small minority where, for a multitude of reasons, a student has lost their way, has become disengaged and cannot be reached by teacher or parent. That is where the collaboration really needs to work, which always takes more than five minutes.
Some of my funniest and frustrating memories are of parents’ evenings, such as the time when a parent, who looked familiar, turned up. She didn’t have an appointment and, although I recognised her, I couldn’t remember her child’s name. After a moment of bland pleasantries, I gave up and asked the name of her child which she gave me. “But Tommy left school last year!” I told her.
“I know he did,” she said, “but I just wanted to come and let you know how he was getting on and to say ‘hello’”. Lovely, but crackers.
There was also the occasion, very early in my career, when I first met the dad of a student that had been giving me a real run around for weeks. Nothing I tried could persuade this lad to behave for me, or to take any interest in learning about business’ liquidity ratio. So I was delighted when dad turned up and I spent five minutes explaining how his son needed to get to my lessons on time, follow my instructions, do his homework, not mess about, not be rude and so on.
“Well, if you can get him to do all that, Mr Groak,” he said, “then you’re a better man than me, ‘cos I’ve given up on the little bugger!”
One of the worst nightmares for a teacher is when a parent arrives with child and sits down - and you don’t know the name of the child. As stated before, if you are a teacher of PE, RE, DT etc then you might teach many hundreds of children, and it can take all year to remember their names. So this situation is always difficult and prone to embarrassment. I always advise staff to be open and to ask for the student name; much better than guessing and then spending five minutes talking about a different child. You can imagine how problematic that could be!
My thanks to the parents and carers of our Sixth Form students for attending and hope the evening was a productive one.
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It has been a nice and calm start to the new half term. Thankfully the weather is fine and dry at the moment and so the field remains open for the students at unstructured time which always helps with school management.
The continued high levels of attendance are also bearing fruit. When students attend regularly, they make better progress, but it also leads to greater consistency in behaviour and relationships between peers. I thank you for your ongoing support which has led to a 2.5% increase in our overall attendances this year, compared to last year.
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Finally, this is a busy weekend for my family as we are heading down to Surrey for a family birthday party. Weekends away are quite rare in term time and, although it will be nice to get away, I will be taking my laptop with me as there is no way that I can avoid having to do a couple of hours work setting up for next week. I will do that on Saturday morning after a run along the River Thames in Surrey, which is always a joy.
Whatever you are doing this weekend, enjoy it and thank you for your ongoing support.
Mr Groak
Headteacher