WEEK 10 - Friday 19 November
I have spent many hours over the last two weeks speaking to my year 9 students about choices. We ALL continue to make many choices throughout everyday. Some we are happy with and some we would relish the opportunity to make again with the benefit of hindsight.
We have discussed the importance of making the best options choices as we approach the KS4 stage in our educational journey. We have discussed how important it is that as a family you discuss these choices together, make decisions that have been well thought out and will allow your child to continue to make outstanding progress at The Hessle Academy.
We have discussed our friendship choices. This is an area that I am passionate about when discussing with the young people at our school. Recent local reports have highlighted some unsociable behaviour in areas that our young people live in and socialise in. I speak to students about the influences that their friendship group has on them. Are your friends being a good influence? Are you and your friends being a positive member of the community?
I feel that as educators and parents we need to broach this subject with our young people on a regular basis. Are we aware of where our children are playing? Are we fully aware of who our children are socialising with? Are we fully aware of the impact our children and their friendship group are having on the local community?
I will continue to challenge my year 9 students on their friendship choices. Are they surrounding themselves with others that have a positive influence on themselves? I always offer the same simple advice:
- Choose friends with common goals. I like to call these your purpose partners. When you have friends with common goals you can push each other. You can work on your goals together and encourage each other in reaching them and surpassing them.
- Choose friends that stretch, motivate and encourage you. No one wants a friend that is negative or down all the time. It's usually the people that are uplifting and positive that we naturally want to be around. Which category do your friends fall into? What do your conversations with them sound like? The best types of friends will be there to offer a listening ear and help you put a positive spin on any situation.
- Choose friends that share the same interests. Friends with similar interests simply make life more fun. You can enjoy outings and activities together. Whether it's sports, music, performing arts or food, when you share interests, you can get out and do things together. You have someone to visit new places and enjoy new experiences with.
If we can model what a good friend is, and how a good friend should act, I hope that our year 9’s will continue to grow into the positive, friendly members of our community that we strive to develop.
If you have any concerns or questions please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Head of Year 9
Assistant Head of Year 9